Wednesday, April 9, 2014

My Five Wives Makes My Brain Blow Up

As many people know, I watch a few reality TV shows. I mean, I don't sit and stare at them, but they play in the background while I work on things that don't require total silence.

I watched Sisterwives. Now I've been watching My Five Wives.

I'll begin by saying, I have no issue with alternative lifestyles. If people want to marry one, two, three, or more people, go for it. But...the way Kody's Cult and now Brady's Bunch are being edited by TLC, these two families look more like Gaslighting Nightmares than Happy Families.

The more I watched Sisterwives, the more the blatant narcissistic tendencies of Kody began to leak out. It really is a fascinating study for those who want to examine a live narcissist in action. He doesn't have to say a word as he smugly sits  surrounded by his harem, each wife puffy and sad, even when she smiles.

As this season of Sisterwives came to a close, commercials began to play for a new polygamist family show called My Five Wives. They were cut in a catchy way to Bowie's "Modern Love," looking clean and cute and fun. It was even hinted that this family was more open with their marital relationships with each other with coy snippets of dialogue and lots of smiles.

I laughed at the use of "Modern Love." This is not modern love. This is just another family run by a misogynist narcissist trying to keep his wives in the dark times. Polygamy is an ancient custom, nothing about this show is modern except that it takes place now.

If you thought Kody was selfish, hang on to your hats when you meet smarmy-smiled Brady.

Brady has five wives. Well, he has one legal wife and lives with four other ladies. They rotate nights, so each wife gets Brady to herself one night in five. Unless of course there's an anniversary or something. Then the lady of the hour gets to take someone else's night. There are no make-ups. A wife pushed from her night doesn't get the next night. She gets to wait five more days for her husband's attention.

In the most recent episode, Brady missed a wife's anniversary by a real long time. However, another wife got her anniversary on the show we saw Sunday and no one cared about the wife who had been missed. Then the missed wife had to miss her regular date (sex) night with Brady because Brady had a bee in his bonnet about one of his kids dating and even though she was home by nine, Brady blew off the blown-off wife yet again to stay with the dater's mom, one of his more favoured wives.

It seems to me that even though there are rules and schedules, Brady can break them at will and everyone has to suck it up.

The things that BLOWS MY MIND in both of these shows is the whole children thing.

In Sisterwives, wife #1 keeps talking about adoption even though there are 19 kids or something in Kody's family. I thought that was ridiculous. If she doesn't want to be an empty nester while her husband plays with three of his other wives and their kids, she could get a divorce and marry a man who loves only her. And since she's the only legally married wife, she'd probably do pretty well with a settlement. All she has to do is say she was on the show and the world has already seen how Kody mind-games her endlessly.

Anyway, back to My Five Wives.

One wife wants to adopt a baby since she can't have any more children. She is sucky and whiny about it. She already has kids. Brady has 24 kids. She has a full-time job. Brady wants her to quit her job and hang around the house all day. He says he'll support her, he doesn't want her working full-time. She says she loves her job and doesn't want to quit. He pretty much demands it. She says she's lonely because she doesn't see him much. Yeah, no kidding, once every five days! But even so, he wants her to quit working so she can be paying attention to him. He pretty much said that. It was absolutely jaw-dropping.

He wasn't terribly on-board with looking into adoption until he discovered that they weren't allowed to adopt because they were a polygamist family. This doesn't suit King Brady. He demands to be allowed to adopt a child. And I'm sure the rest of the season will be him on this expensive mission for a trophy. How does he have time to properly father the twenty-four he already has created? And FIVE wives?

Oh yeah, he's also getting a masters degree while working full-time and juggling twenty-nine people.

Oh, what a circus, oh what a show...!

So, he tells the wife they're going to do this adoption thing and she needs to think very seriously about quitting her full-time job.

Then there's another wife. She wants to have another baby. She already has a litter but as the show progressed, it seems like perhaps one reason women want to have a lot of babies is because once they "decide" to make a baby, the husband gets to be with the wife not on her night. I'm not positive if that's true, it wasn't really clear. But it provides pathetic motivation.

Brady says he doesn't want to have another baby, he can barely afford the ones he has now. He keeps putting her off, but at last, she wins. Then she's all worried about telling the other wives in case they realize they're having sex.

Uh, duh. She makes no sense. She acknowledges they all realize they likely have sex with Brady but to announce a baby makes her feel as if she's throwing it in their faces that she's having sex with him. Since everyone kisses and hugs in front of each other, it's pretty obvious Brady is the rooster in the hen-house. So bizarre.

Brady is such a control freak. He micromanages everyone's lives. He has to know everything about everything.

But as with Kody, you can't totally blame Brady. Part of it is the culture most of them were raised in. I would say  most of it is low-self-esteem on the women's parts. You don't see any famous people in a polygamist marriage. If I'm wrong, correct me. Women are not people in these marriages.Not the way they are edited on TLC. Both men claim they are open-minded and forward-thinking but they are not. They are classic examples of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

I can see the pluses of polygamy for sure. Joint finances, joint raising of kids, joint chores, instant parties, taking care of each other, loving each other, lots of great sex with each other.

But to me, a true polygamist marriage is one where everyone has a voice. Where a wife can have five husbands just like her husband, where several couples can sleep in the same bed if they want once in a while, a situation where if there's jealousy, there's work to fix it by respecting each other's feelings and being certain no one is being shunned or shafted. An organic blending of families and sexuality in a committed arrangement certainly has its appeal. But not how it's been depicted in these two shows. The men get all the sex, all the say, pretend the wives have a voice, and have ulterior motives for almost all of their actions including being on a reality show to begin with.

If this is God's will, then why is everyone so sad? Why is it so one-sided? Why do we feel like these men are building communities for their own visions of God at the expense of women and children who either don't know better or are too trapped to get out?

Every single wife on both shows declares her love for her husband and sisterwives. They say they freely choose this life and can leave whenever they desire. Yet even when they smile, one can't help notice the air of sadness and jealousy that hovers over both families. Edited or not, as a viewer, that is what I see.

I had hoped My Five Wives would provide a more progressive look at polygamy than the Browns show does. I was wrong. My Five Wives is like a tragedy. Five depressed, jealous wives, one selfish controlling man, and twenty-four children who are trying to make sense of the world.

What do you think about Brady telling one wife they can't afford to bring any more children into the family and telling another wife to quit her full-time job that she loves and adopt a baby?

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(photos are selfies on the set of "Zombie Love" for the I HATE TODD band video.)

Sunday, March 30, 2014

TTC Riders Sardine Award Goes To Glenn Murray

On Friday March 28, 2014, nearly 100 residents of Toronto gathered in front of Glenn Murray's office to give him the Sardine Award.

First we gathered at College and University, where the organizers passed out signs and sardine hats. We didn't know our destination, it was top secret. We were told to board streetcars and so we did, squished together like the sardines that hats and signs depicted. We disembarked at Parliament and waited until everyone was gathered once more. We chanted for a while and then marched up the street. Only then did we know our final destination.

We were giving the award to Glenn Murray.

He didn't come out to accept it. From the articles I've posted, it seems he wasn't in his office when we stopped by.

At least he knows people are trying to make a difference whether it was towards the correct government official or not. The idea is to be heard, and the disgruntled riders apparently made the news.

In recent months, I've decided to become more proactive about my unhappiness with the TTC. I know most of it isn't TTC's fault but the economy, lack of government funding and so on. 

In a perfect world, I envision a subway line that spans from Winston Churchill to the Toronto Zoo. I see other rapid transit lines, above the city. Perhaps a shuttle from Pearon, down the 427 and then along the Gardner while the Gardner as we know it has been eliminated. The QEW would dump into a system that divides into north and east and also provides multi level parking garages where they can catch that subway or rapid train (NOT the GO train) I spoke of into the city. There would be another line that goes up Roncessville then runs along Dundas and loops around back from somewhere in Scarborough.

But those are unrealistic pipedreams.

However, something needs to be done to move more people.

This past winter was harsh and no one sane drove more than he or she had to. I wanted to get around much more than I did but the cost of taking the TTC can really add up day to day. Buying a pass won't help me because I don't take the TTC every day, but sometimes I just want to pop out to the gym or go for drinks and I have to add $6 to my experience. When times are tight, that adds up fast. 

I believe TTC passes should be lowered to around $50 a month. Before people shout about lost revenue, I would bet that lost revenue would be made up from people like me who take the TTC a lot, would take it much more if it wasn't so costly, and would buy a pass every month just to have it. The TTC isn't losing my single use money because they've lost tons of money from me because I can't justify the cost of going 4 km to the gym which is just too far to walk and costs about fifty cents to drive with free parking. However, I would buy a reasonable pass in a flash and get out way more. I still probably wouldn't use up the $50 but it makes more sense to someone like me.

So I've been looking around for what I can do about helping get the cost down and perhaps help with examining service options. 

If you are fed up with the TTC or want to see what you can do to help make things better, check out groups such as TTC Riders. There are often smaller groups in your community examining these very issues so do a google and see where you fit in.

Check out some of these links from the Sardines Award event!

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Captured Souls - Samhain Publishing is Almost Here!

Captured Souls

Captured Souls is available right now as a pre-order! Be ready to read when it comes out on February 4!

After you've read Captured Souls, please be certain to leave me reviews on  your favourite sites such as Samhain, Amazon, or Goodreads. Reviews are the best feedback for an author to see what the readers like and don't like about a work. Whenever you have a minute, whip up a little review for books you've read and enjoyed or even not enjoyed by your favourite author.

One of the benefits of the new way of publishing is the ability to interact with your authors. We can't write what you like if you don't tell us!

Captured Souls is a mad scientist tale that explores themes of control, lust, and obsession in a modern setting.

"In Captured Souls--her latest erotic thrill ride, Sèphera Girón has created a terrifying new character: a female rendition of Dr. Frankenstein given to detailed scientific human experimentation combined with the sexually predatory and obsessive nature of Nabokov's Humbert Humbert. Horrific and unforgettable."
 --Lisa Mannetti, Bram Stoker Award-winning author of The Gentling Box and Deathwatch

A queasily beguiling blend of erotica and body horror, Sèphera Girón's Captured Souls pits a sexy female mad scientist with a literal fetish for fleshy modification against the self-set challenge of not just finding the perfect lover, but making one. Think Frankenstein in a bustier, with a cool, sleek, Cronenbergian edge. The result is an imaginative Grand Guignol freakout with porno flair, pumped full of dry black humor and nasty surprises, explicit in every way possible--overall, quite disgustingly entertaining.
--Gemma Files, Hexslinger Series

Sèphera Girón knocks that stereotypical male sexual predator on his head.  You won't find another book like this one out there.  If you want lust, insanity and horror plaited together into one easy and fun-to-read diabolical story, Captured Souls is for you! 

--Nancy Kilpatrick, Writer - Power of the Blood, Editor - Expiration Date

Tiny clip from Captured Souls

Captured Souls - Samhain Publishing

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Captured Souls from Samhain Horror is Now Ready to Pre-Order

Can science create the perfect lover? Or only a living hell? 

Dr. Miriam Frederick is a brilliant professor at a large university. But her latest experiments are decidedly unsanctioned and far more chilling than anyone could imagine. She is determined to answer questions that have plagued mankind for millennia.

What is love? What is lust?

Her first specimen is an author with a gift for language. Specimen Two is an athlete with amazing endurance. Specimen Three provides physical beauty. But once she has trapped her subjects, her twisted attempt to create the perfect lover will have unexpected—and nightmarish—results, not just for her captives, but for her as well.

 "In Captured Souls--her latest erotic thrill ride, Sephera Giron has created a terrifying new character: a female rendition of Dr. Frankenstein given to detailed scientific human experimentation combined with the sexually predatory and obsessive nature of Nabokov's Humbert Humbert. Horrific and unforgettable." --Lisa Mannetti, Bram Stoker Award-winning author of The Gentling Box and Deathwatch